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Cline and Fay know teenagers well, and the book is engaging. The parenting pearls in the last third of the book are worth the price of purchase. Read it carefully; the book is short on “bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord” and long on “do not exasperate your children.” — Daniel R. Vander Ark, Christian Home & School Magazine, March/April 1993Cline and Fay know teenagers well, and the book is engaging. The parenting pearls in the last third of the (more…)

Let’s face it… kids are EXHAUSTING. And the romantic side of a relationship is often trumped by a need for sleep.
Parents don’t want to talk openly about this topic, but I can assure you that many are experiencing this problem. It’s extremely common for tired parents to opt for sleep over love making. While you might feel guilty saying “Not tonight honey” it doesn’t change a thing. You’re still not interested.
And, lack of sleep doesn’t just affect your sex life.
Tired parents have fewer coping skills, are more irritable and are more easily frustrated than well rested ones. This can have a domino effect on the family. Kids act up, parents get cranky, kids act up more, and parents get even crankier. And the relationship can suffer too. Partners can feel resentful which can morph into anger.
So, for all the parents who don’t want sleep to be their new sex, here are some tips for helping them get the rest they need:
1. Take naps anytime you can. Ask dad to take shifts on weekends so mom can catch a few extra zzzzz’s.
2. Reciprocate. Dads get tired too so make sure you swap off the kids and give him time to nap.
3. Call in the troops. Whether it’s your mom, a sister, or a friend, find someone who can come in and take the children off your hands. If it’s a neighbor you trust, offer to reciprocate in some way. Perhaps you could trade kids another time and give him/her a break. Consider doubling up your cooking efforts by making an extra meal. Share it with your neighbour. You’d be surprised how open they might be to having a fresh lasagna ready to go for dinner.
4. Sleep when the baby sleeps. Drop everything and crawl under those covers, even if the dishes have piled up in the sink. If you have a toddler, put her down too so that everyone naps at the same time. If he resists, persevere! Try putting him in your bed and snuggle up together. If there’s an older child present, set up activities where he can manage his own time for about an hour while you get an uninterrupted snooze.
5. Put in some ear plugs. During those times when others are in the home while you’re trying to nap put ear plugs in so those household noises doesn’t disturb you. If that’s not enough to create a soundless atmosphere add an extra pillow on top of your ear. (This is not recommended if you’re alone with your children as you’d not be able to hear them in case of an emergency.)
6. Get a book on sleep problems. If your child or children are having difficulty sleeping and that’s part of your reason for your exhaustion, invest in a good book on resolving sleep issues. I recommend The Sleepeasy Solution: The Exhausted Parents Guide to Getting Your Child to Sleep-From Birth to Age 5 by Jennifer Waldburger and Jill Spivak. It’s one of the books I assessed for Chapter’s Books as one of their Trusted Advisors and it offers parents systems and strategies to get kids to nap, sleep through the night, etc.
Getting enough sleep is critical for parents. Proper rest is not just good for your mood, your immune system and your sanity, but proper sleep makes you feel human again!! Terry Carson, M.Ed. is Canada’s first certified Parenting Coach. As a mother of four, she knows the challenges facing today’s parents. Her CD Excuse Me! helps to teach their children how to politely interrupt and how to get rid of whining. To purchase Excuse Me! go to www.TheParentingCoach.ca. Also, sign up for The Parenting Newsletter and receive “The #1 Mistake Good Parents Make” as a free gift.

It is one of the most considerable problems for troubled parents and family members to deal with troubled teenagers. This should be considered as a sensible issue and possible best solution should be planned as soon as possible if not it might affect every part of teen’s life in future. The listed teen parenting tips are proved to be successful in most of the troubled teen cases. Find most of the information It is better to gain most of the related information on teen parenting including various types of teen disorders, more you gain about these teens’ issues more you can understand about the issue and in some of the cases you can plan yourself with a successive approach. Be active online Be an active user in few of the teen parenting forums or websites that provide you with lots of general views, suggestions and advices to deal with troubled teenagers. Sharing your views with other troubled parents makes you to get different opinions on one single issue from other parents and this helps you to take a better step in teen parenting. You can also give your valuable suggestions to other needy parents who are in need of support like you based on your experience. Maintain healthy environment It is helpful to make up a specific point of time to share your happy time with your teens and during this time try to praise them in which they are good at and make them understand you love them so much, creating a healthy environment in the home helps you with good results. Make them involve It is helpful to involve teenagers in your work and assigning some work which they can complete by their own and reward and praise them when they complete it, this will not only help them to learn new things but also improves teens confidence levels. Take specialists advice It is helpful to take specialized professionals help to deal with teens disorders, these specialists guide you with various types of effective methods that help you to manage teens issues in a healthy manner. These specific methods help you to handle teen’s mental problems also. In order to provide better parenting for loved teens it is helpful to gain most of the information which help us to take better steps for healthy parenting. http://www.strugglingteen.net provides you with detailed troubled teen reviews, list of professional suggestions to various teenage problems with detailed necessary teen parenting tips with lots of information on how to choose a better option to deal with struggling teenagers.

HONEST PARENTING WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD? Proper parenting skills are a major requirement in this lifelong child rearing preparation process and you have to be sure that you are equipped with good parenting skills. Getting the necessary baby items such as feeding bottles, clothes, cribs, tons of diapers and other baby things as well can be stressful. THE PROCESS OF BEING A NEW PARENT. To be able to assist your child in learning how to properly cope up with life and how to face its vicissitudes, you should allow your parenting skills to kick in and let it guide you on the right path. Parenting can be compared to riding a roller coaster, where throughout the way you will experience sky high thrills and even sometimes heart breaking downhill’s. HERE ARE THE PROCESSES THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW TO BECOME SKILLED IN PARENTING. As a parent, try to rediscover the inner child in you – to do this, you have to step inside and be in your children shoes. Try to remember what it was like to be a kid again, this process is called as “rediscovering your inner child”. You must admit, that we tend to forget how it is to just relax and get stuck with our boring lifestyle and jobs. For you to understand the issues at hand with regards to your children, try putting yourself your children shoes for a change. Try to see things from your children perspective and you’ll then gain a realization and a understanding about how they are feeling and why they are rebelling. Good parenting skills teaches you how to actually listen to your child’s needs and not relinquish them, but it is all up to you on how can you stand strong and see the issues in your child’s eyes and develop a solution that will please you both. PARENTING IS A NEVER-ENDING JOB. Parents seeing and watching over the years where his/her child’s strikes out their own to become independent and self-aware is incomparable. Parenting is the most underpaid job ever and you do not even earn anything from being a parent. There is a time where the fine line of parenting is nothing but wide, smooth and straight, that is when you know exactly what to do. By the time your child steps out into the world at age 18, they are considered as an adult (well, in some cases this may not be applicable). Parenting is the hardest job and that applies to whether you are a first time parent or whether you already have several kids. TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCE As young as one-year-old, your child can start learning self-reliance. Always remember to allow your child to earn things that they want and not for you not to give in to easily to their wants. When parents have the mind frame that giving your child things (from toys, to high tech gadgets etc. Do not be surprised if you discover that you’re really seeking to fulfill what you lacked in your childhood. GET MORE COMPLIANCE FROM YOUR CHILD. The following are 9 methods that a parent can use to gain more cooperation from their child. To be able to get to the next place with your child, make it fun – If your child is the type that has troubles with changes and becomes oppositional, you can ask him/her to hop like a kangaroo to the door, or even have their favorite thing waiting in the car for them thus providing cooperation from you child. Relate to your child what you are seeing and also state what you would like to see for instance, “Oh you really like saying NO. COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMS. Being a active parent within your child’s school, will give you a good idea about how your child’s is actually developing in their studies. Though, children do not realize that not all parents can actually afford to pay high prices for their children clothes and shoes, I know that your own child won’t take that into consideration, he/she wants to be just like the others, and often say that if others have it, why can’t they have it too. How hard can being parent can be? In a sense, parenting can be considered as quite easy, however when it comes down to giving advice and helping your children this is where things get difficult. Of course, parents initial reactions might be of rage about the actual cost of the designer clothes, but come to think of it take yourself back in time reliving your school days, how you felt when you wanted to wear the latest clothes. MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIME. First, parents should try to rearrange their schedules in order the entire family to sit down for meals even if it’s just for one meal out of the week. THE FOLLOWING TIPS ENSURE THAT YOUR FAMILY TIME WILL BE STRESS FREE AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU WILL MAKE YOUR FAMILY MEMORIES LAST FOR A LIFETIME: Parents should turn off the television during dinner time so that you can focus on family conversations. During dinner, there should not be anyone talking on the cell phone or playing electronic game (except for emergencies). Also, there should be a timeout for issues that have been brought up earlier and the issues should be continued at a later time which is another solution for enjoying stress memories.   ParentingSimple parenting techniques thattame difficult kids. Free trial. carlleduc.com

PARENTING: WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD?Not that its not proper, it is just that things happens differently in real life.THE PROCESS OF BEING A NEW PARENTYou must admit, that we tend to forget how it is to just relax and get stuck with our boring lifestyle and jobs.Remember that too much of criticism is not going to do any good in any parent and child relationships.Proper and good parenting skills teaches you how to actually listen to your child’s needs and not relinquish them, but it is all up to you on how can you stand strong and see the issues in your child’s eyes and end to a solution that will please you both.PARENTING AS A NEVER-ENDING JOBParenting is the most underpaid job ever; you do not even earn anything from being a parent.Children now, regardless of their age needs help and proper guidance from you their parents.By the time your child steps out on the world at 18, they are considered as an adult (well, in some cases this may not be applicable).TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCEThis may be the thought that they have in mind “I’m important enough that’s why I was given responsibilities.Most of the time, it is out of you own desire for materialistic pressures, or to be liked, and sometimes fervent wish that your child may be spared of the things that you did not experience as a child, as an action you would want to do your best to give them nothing but the best of everything.You  would make them have a fun childhood memories, or in a way heal your own emotional wounds by doing all of these to your children, you are interfering with your child’s development unconsciously.GET MORE COMPLIANCE IN NINE WAYS!I really love it every time I hear other kids say, YES! YES! Then you can tickle your child or even use humour just to see if you actually can get your child to say YES!Always relate your command as a statement, and never as a question . Most parents are prone to saying, would you like to start doing your homework now? and other commands which should always be stated using a firm voice. Try saying, You can watch right after dinner.By using rewards – You can focus on your child’s positive attitude instead of the negatives.MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIMEAvoid criticisms, arguing or squabbling.It is important to always keep positive and upbeat conversation topics.As your goal is to produce long lasting good memories from these conversations over a family dinner, and you want your family looking forward to spending more of these moments together.COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMSOh, Yes! We’ve been through difficult years or so, and then of course we know a lot better compared to our children, what we must bear in mind is that time changes and what might be right for us may also not right for our children.I have been corrected a lot of times before by being rebuked that “Its way different now” or by “Mom that happen to be years ago” it seems that the children makes a point in that sense. We are trying to guide our children to the best of our knowledge by relieving our very own childhood/teen years and the truth of the matter is that we haven’t really moved forward at present time.Resources:Parenting Simple parenting techniques that tame difficult kids. Free trial http://tinyurl.com/nbthmj Daniel Craven It’s OK… You can relax…
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PARENTING: WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD?This can be an overwhelming task.Getting the necessary items (like feeding bottles; clothes; cribs; tons of diapers and other baby things as well), Not to mention that you have to start working on the nursery. THE PROCESS OF BEING A NEW PARENTThere is no such thing as impossible in searching for others who are experienced in those kind of problems.Not all this information can be processed in an instant by our brains in a day.It can be compared to riding a rollercoaster, where all throughout the way you will experience sky high thrills and even sometimes heart breaking downhill’s.Try to see things from their perspective; you’ll then gain a realization and an understanding about how they’re feeling and why they’re rebelling.Proper and good parenting skills teaches you how to actually listen to your child’s needs and not relinquish them, but it is all up to you on how can you stand strong and see the issues in your child’s eyes and end to a solution that will please you both. PARENTING AS A NEVER-ENDING JOBParenting a child takes a lifetime.By the time your child steps out on the world at 18, they are considered as an adult (well, in some cases this may not be applicable).Often times, you can hear people saying that if only they had a parental guidance they would have been nothing but the best parent ever in the whole world.There is a time where the line is nothing but wide, smooth and straight, that is when you know exactly what to do.It’s nothing but a continuous process. TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCEYou may still believe that by giving your child things that they want is pleasurable.When your child has responsibilities, (even at a tender age) they too feels proud of their achievements and often feels needed, feels important and of course loved.Most of the time, it is out of you own desire for materialistic pressures, or to be liked, and sometimes fervent wish that your child may be spared of the things that you did not experience as a child, as an action you would want to do your best to give them nothing but the best of everything.As young as two years old, a Child can start learning to do easy chores. GET MORE COMPLIANCE IN NINE WAYS!Your child is then less likely to oppose if he/she feels that he/she have some control of the situation.Let us say for example, when your child asks “Can I watch TV now?” if your initial response is, “No.Some specific triggers can set a child off.Brainstorming with your child as to what reward/s will be given after they have accomplished a number of set times. MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIMEIt’s better to make a gradual routine change as opposed to major drastic changes that’ll certainly bring about all kinds of objections.As your goal is to produce long lasting good memories from these conversations over a family dinner, and you want your family looking forward to spending more of these moments together.2) A planned simple dinner that is delicious and nutritious, but doesn’t require stress while preparing it.It must be all positive and uplifting.All that you must do is for you to change the way that you think, this can be achieved with simple steps with just a bit of planning and forethought. COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMSOh, Yes! We’ve been through difficult years or so, and then of course we know a lot better compared to our children, what we must bear in mind is that time changes and what might be right for us may also not right for our children.Plus, the fact that you will learn about their behavior in school.Give your child some freedom, so that they can start learning on their own to curve on how to do things alone.I have been corrected a lot of times before by being rebuked that “Its way different now” or by “Mom that happen to be years ago” it seems that the children makes a point in that sense. http://www.honestparenting.com/index.html?hop=flyrock01 Parenting.
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HONEST PARENTING————————–WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD?Not to mention, you have to start working on the baby’s nursery as well. The basic parenting equipment that we have is the way in which our very own parents brought us up. THE PROCESS OF BEING A NEW PARENT. Parenting can be compared to riding a roller coaster, where throughout the way you will experience sky high thrills and even sometimes heart breaking downhill’s. To be able to assist your child in learning how to properly cope up with life and how to face its vicissitudes, you should allow your parenting skills to kick in and let it guide you on the right path. HERE ARE THE PROCESSES THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW TO BECOME SKILLED IN PARENTING. >> Not all parenting information can be processed instantly by our brains in a day. Parenting will require a lifetime of endless learning, rejoicing and even suffering before you are successful. What’s important to keep in mind is that you should never give up on parenting. As long as you are open minded when it comes to parenting, you have guaranteed that you have won the parenting race already. PARENTING IS A NEVER-ENDING JOB. As parents, we are not going to just sit back and do nothing about our child misbehavior or about the situation at hand, what kind of lessons are we teaching them if we doing nothing? Children would not survive the newborn baby stage, let along be full grown adults if parents didn’t teach their kids properly. Even after all of your children have grown up, they will still come to you for advice. Parenting never stops, whether you realized it or not. Just because now that your child is taller than you doesn’t mean that they are more matured and ready for anything that this world can offer them. TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCEDo not be surprised if you discover that you’re really seeking to fulfill what you lacked in your childhood. By giving acceptance, abundant love and affection to your child, they tend to be kinder, charitable and best of all responsible as opposed to those whose parents acceded to their every whims and materialistic demands. As a result of your child feeling self-sufficient, they will feel confident enough to rise above any situation. Upon learning to take on responsibility, your child will be self-sufficient. GET MORE COMPLIANCE FROM YOUR CHILD. A example of positive communication is, when your child asks “Can I watch TV now?” If your initial response to allowing your child to watch TV is “No, you can’t watch TV right now, try saying, “You can watch right after dinner”. To solve your child’s defiant behavior, you should not take the bait in a power struggle with your oppositional child. If your child argues, all you have to do is to repeat that rule over and over, as opposed you starting a debate with your child and as a result of doing this, you will gain more cooperation from your child. COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMS. How hard can being parent can be? In a sense, parenting can be considered as quite easy, however when it comes down to giving advice and helping your children this is where things get difficult. So if you do not have one of these back at home and you are basically clueless about them do not even contemplate on trying to help your child with their school work. Going out alone is just not an option for children any more. Plus, by being a active parent in your child’s school system you will learn about their behavior while at school. MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIME. You do not need to perform a major makeover in starting to increase your quality time that you and your family spend together. THE FOLLOWING TIPS ENSURE THAT YOUR FAMILY TIME WILL BE STRESS FREE AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU WILL MAKE YOUR FAMILY MEMORIES LAST FOR A LIFETIME:>> Also, there should be a timeout for issues that have been brought up earlier and the issues should be continued at a later time which is another solution for enjoying stress memories. >> Remember, it is very important to always keep positive and upbeat conversational topics. Talking about negative topics in the news or anything that is unpleasant should not be done while dining with your family members. Talking about negative topics while eating is rather quite unhealthy physically and emotionally. It is of utmost importance that you discuss serious issues together with your children some times but, that is inappropriate while dining together. Your goal is to produce long lasting good memories from these causal conversations over a family dinner and you want your family to look forward to spending more of these moments together. ______________________________________________________honest parenting                                     simple parenting techniques that tame difficult kids. free trial. http://dolphgal.honestptg.hop.clickbank.net

WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD? ————————————————— The arrival of a baby can be an overwhelming task. All throughout the parenting process, you’ll find yourself thinking and even daydreaming about things like wonderful times you will spend with your child, but you have to put that one on hold just for now.  Because there are barriers between you and your child and every conversation turns into a screaming match and a major power struggle.  Now there is a guide and resources to advise you on the best way to handle the child in your life. BEING A NEW PARENT. ————————————————— The right parenting path will lead you to self-comfort most especially in those difficult situations that you are most likely to face in the future with your offspring. HERE ARE THE PROCESSES THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW TO BECOME SKILLED IN PARENTING. ————————————————— To find out answers to solving your parenting issues, you can talk to another parent whom has actually gone through that same situation with their child before. There are parenting forums that are available online nowadays and some are equipped with online chat options. There are many websites about parenting and you can find nearly all solutions to every type of situation out there. Try to look at how other parents have ended their issues and what their solution was and try to see if that may actually work for you. PARENTING IS A NEVER-ENDING JOB. ————————————————— To raise a child into being a good adult definitely takes a commitment (life long that is). Parenting is nothing but a continuous process. However, there can also be a thick and crooked line of parenting if you make and if you make a mistake or bad move you will end up falling. Most parents want nothing but the best for their children. If one day your child comes running to you and starts asking you like “mom/dad I need help”, will you say to them sorry, I am too busy now? I do not believe so; you will not tell your child that you are too busy to help them. TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCE ————————————————— True independence is the only precious gift that you as a parent can actually give to your child. It is hard to see a child struggling in meeting their personal goal, but it’s’ wonderful to be there beside them as you see them slowly achieving it. When parents have the mind frame that giving your child things from toys, to high tech gadgets etc. When your child has responsibilities, (even at a tender age) they too feel proud of their achievements and often feel needed, feel important and of course feel loved. GET MORE COMPLIANCE FROM YOUR CHILD. ————————————————— Relate to your child what you are seeing and also state what you would like to see for instance, “Oh you really like saying NO. If the situation is for a frustrated child, you can then say, “I know that you are irritated right now since you are having a hard time building your Lego tower, even I understand that it is hard to leaving your Lego tower unfinished”, which will help to gain more cooperation from your child. Brainstorming with your child as opposed to focusing on what reward/s will be given after they have accomplished a task will prove that you will be rewarded with cooperation from your child. COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMS. ————————————————— Do not let fear overcome you; the joyful experience that a child can bring to their parents is enough to pay for all the hardships that you will endure in rearing a good child. Give your child some freedom, so that they can start learning on their own and how to do things alone. Parents have the choice and the chance to curve your life’s path towards being a good parent. Plus, by being an active parent in your child’s school system you will learn about their behavior while at school. MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIME. ————————————————— You do not need to perform a major makeover in starting to increase your quality time that you and your family spend together. THE FOLLOWING TIPS ENSURE THAT YOUR FAMILY TIME WILL BE STRESS FREE AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU WILL MAKE YOUR FAMILY MEMORIES LAST FOR A LIFETIME: ————————————————— > Remember that by having pleasant dinner talks it is one of the most effective and the simplest way to create family bonds/ties and this will truly make your memories last for a lifetime. Be sure to maintain a pleasant conversation at dinnertime as well as having inspirational and upbeat conversations too. If dinnertime conversations are not pleasant, your family members will not even remember these times spent together as a family and in turn family dinners will easily be just an activity that they don’t want to participate in. If your family does not want to participate in family dinner due to unpleasant conversation, that is certainly counterproductive of quality family time. > Try to set at least an hour or two aside with your family, before your next scheduled activity. 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Sue Atkins is a Parent Coach, former Deputy Head with 22 years teaching experience and is an NLP Master Practitioner and Trainer and mother of two teenage children. She has written many books on self esteem, toddlers and teenagers and has a collection of Parenting Made Easy Toolkits available from her website. She is also the author of “Raising Happy Children for Dummies” one in the black and yellow series published worldwide and available from all good bookshops. For more information go to => http://www.positive-parents.com

Basics Of Parenting             Today, the one and the only question that is in the minds of everybody is “where are the youth of this generation going?” as the lifestyle and values of the youth is bothering the society to say the least. Though the  problems created by the youth and the problems faced by them are innumerable, it is not the state of affairs of the youth alone that is causing anxiety. The baby on its way into this world, new born babies and the children in different stages of growth  also face and cause problems. While trying to find the root cause of the problem it is the parents who are blamed for it, most of the time.   Though they are not the sole cause, they have a major role to play.   Their success in parenting depends on the kind of parents they are, their environment, the support from the family, the possibility of getting trained for parent hood, the level of education, the nature of the child concerned etc.,. The problems, mostly psychological, would vanish with proper  parenting.  In the early days, people mostly lived in joint families.  The experience and advice the young parents received from the elders, parents, aunts, grand parents, uncles, guided them in the process of parenting.  The children also had many people to support them, to allow them to vent their feelings and  to learn the probable ways of findings solutions to their problems. True Story             While talking to a group of adolescent girls shocking messages came to light.   Many of the adolescent girls were having illicit relationship with auto drivers with whom they were coming to school.   Deeper analysis brought out the fact that these girls were longing for love from their parents.    When an iota of love or something akin to it is shown by the auto driver, they easily fall a prey to the former’s devious designs; of course they suffer later when they find it difficult to extricate themselves from the driver’s clutches.    Only the parents can help these children.    One of the great, noble traits of parenthood is love  and that alone can cure many ills faced by the children and youth. It can help the girls to retrieve themselves1.             In yet another instance, a 5 years old orphan boy in a care centre for the AIDS infected persons   stunned the onlookers by saying that if his father had had proper parenting, he would not have gone astray and ended with AIDS, infecting his mother too2. Even this small lad knows the importance of parenthood.   Everyone knows about parenting and follow the kind of parenting demonstrated by their parents or that which they have learnt through courses or training or advice given by psychologists or gurus. Styles of Parenting:             Just as there are different types of human beings, there are different types of styles of parents.    The parents’ style influences the level and kind of development of the child.    Whatever may be the style of parenting the essentials to be looked into are, “Express your love, make your child feel secure. Build their self-esteem. Stay flexible and recognize the time for change as your child grows. Communicate openly and honestly and be confident  in your own ability”3. When you talk to your child, you should be actually listening not just hearing.             There are different types of parenting, such as “Authoritative, Authoritarian, Permissive4”.   Parents who are very clear about their role and give instructions with confidence can be considered as Authoritative.   The Reader’s Digest Great Dictionary of the English language shows that authoritative means commanding and self confident, while authoritarian implies, favoring or enforcing strict obedience to authority5.  It is similar to dictatorship.             Another variety of parenting is known as permissive.  These parents allow their children to follow their own path, mostly non-interfering.   It is similar to saying, “let the sleeping dogs lie” as they are.   These parents do not want to follow any strict rules or take up much responsibility in bringing up their children.   There is another mode of classifying the parents.   According to this classification, there are three types of parents, such as Consultant, Helicopter, Dull Sergeants6. Three Types of Parents             CONSULTANT   HELICOPTER   DRILL SERGEANT   This Love and Logic parent provides guidance and consultant services for children   This parent hovers over children and rescues them from the hostile world in which they live.   This parent commands and directs the lives of children. 1. The Love and Logic parent provides messages of personal worth and strength 1. provides messages of weakness and low personal worth 1. provides messages of low personal worth and resistance 2. The Love and Logic parent very seldom mentions responsibilities 2. makes excuses for the child, but complains about mishandled responsibilities 2. makes lots of demands and has lots of expectations about responsibility. 3. The Love and Logic parent demonstrates how to take care of self and be responsible 3. “takes on” the responsibility of the child 3. tells the child how he /she should handle responsibility 4. The Love and Logic parent shares personal feelings about own performance and responsibilities 4. protects the child from any possible negative feelings 4. tells the child how he / she should feel 5. The Love and Logic parent provides and helps child explore alternatives and then allows child to make his / her own decision 5. makes decisions for the child 5. provides absolutes : “This is the decision you should make”. 6. The Love and Logic parent provides “time frames” in which child may complete responsibilities 6. provides no structure, but complaints, “After all I’ve done for you…” 6. demands that jobs or responsibilities be done now 7. The Love and Logic parent models doing a good job, finishing, cleaning up, feeling good about it. 7. whines and uses guilt : “When are you ever going to learn.   I always have to clean up after you.” 7. issues orders and threats: “You get that room cleaned up or else…” 8. The Love and Logic parent often asks self, “Who owns the problem?” helps the child explore solutions to his / her problem 8. whines and complains about having an irresponsible child who causes “me” much work and responsibility 8. takes over ownership of the problem using threats and orders to solve the problem 9. The Love and Logic parent uses lots of actions, but very few words 9. uses lots of words and actions that rescue or indicate that the child is not capable or responsible 9. uses lots of harsh words, very few actions 10. The Love and Logic parent allows child to experience life’s natural consequences and allows them to serve as the teacher 10. protects child from natural consequences, uses guilt as the teacher 10. uses punishment; pain and humiliation can serve as the teacher. Source: http://www.loveandlogic.com/pdfs/threetypes.pdf One way to identify the kind of parents is by analyzing the kind of gifts they give to their children in order to make them do any specific activity.  Some parents have a survival mentality; they give their child “whatever” just to make them do the job. Some parents operate with a default mentality.    They give their child what is popular without considering whether it will be the most helpful. In actual practice the parent should be operating deliberately and purposefully, giving the child what is useful after carefully thinking through.    They are usually known as “intentional parents” 7.   Depending on what kind or type of parents they are, the goals, and gifts also change.    In the case of permissive parents, the guiding motive will be, “If I can just make it through the child – rearing years, I can get my life back”.   Their goal will be “jilting the kids out of the house”.  They follow the easiest method of doing whatever is easy to do.  Hence, they use bribes, threats and use TV as a baby sitter8.             On the other hand, those “who want to give the child what will be best and most helpful for him”, will have the goal of preparing the child for life as a productive adult. They would spend quality time with the child, imparting ethical values to the child.  The gifts given by such parents would be, “religious books, enjoyable pastimes, academics, home skills and chances for socialization” 9.             If a child is to be successful in life, the appropriate parental care is necessary.    But, of course, there are children who grow up into successful adults, in spite of defective parenting.   But such cases are very rare.   The society at present is facing problems of parenting especially in the case of single parent, divorced parents, simple and extended families. Most of the children brought up by single parent and unmarried mothers, find it difficult to cope with the pressures in the family and society. Parenting Skills:             With, hectic work schedule of the parents, the heavy load of learning coupled with  many distractions and the problems faced by the society, the children are looking for the support of their parents for a secure life.    It is ordinarily observed that parenting without proper foundation has always and indefinitely led to confusions in  child development.    What is essential is Ø  Developing and clarifying clear communicative expectations. Ø  Staying calm in the midst of turmoil Ø  Encouraging positive consequences and consistency. Ø  Being the role model to your child. Ø  Effective praising.10             To be a successful parent discipline is necessary.  At the same time, there should be consistency in whatever the parents are saying and doing, parents should have a preplanned, pre-developed strategy to teach proper behaviour to the child. That is, both the parents,or the single parent should make their expectations clear to the child. , Both of them can sail smoothly while bringing up their child.    They should be very specific and firm in teaching their children. Moreover, the parents must take into consideration the child’s age, ability, developmental status and the resources that are available for the family.11   Once the expectations are clearly stated, it is necessary that both the parents should communicate it to the child, without contradictions.    In addition to these, there should be frequent family ‘get togethers’.  Instead of punishing the child for not abiding by the expectations, it will be better to have discussions to clear the child’s doubts and parents being role models.             Ray Burke states that “Children can be sarcastic, defiant, rebellious and possibly violent, parents have to prepare themselves for times like these and learn to keep cool” 12.   Yet another way to increase or encourage desirable behavior is to use positive consequences.    What the parents should remember is to use the positive consequences that would work with the child.   While developing a child’s behavior the parents should remember “consistency”.    Consistency is the key to being a successful parent.    This gives the message to the child that “your parents are reliable and serious”.             The most important aspect of successful parents is that the parents should be role model for their child 13. The parent should be a positive role model for their child to follow.    As Ray Burke say, “Praise is powerful…. Praise is nourishment.   It helps in the emotional development.  It helps in building up self-esteem, belief of personal satisfaction, feeling of security.”14    The praise should be communicated to the child either verbally or through action. Parenting Skills : Ø  Discipline Ø  Education Ø  Finance With the social changes,  the extended family that existed earlier, which played the vital role of a model, a shock absorber, a vent for relieving one’s feelings has become a thing of the past.   Hence, the parents of the modern era have to learn creative ways of bringing up their children.   It is found that the most important but controversial parenting skills is DISCIPLINE.   Whether the method is, redirection, time-outs, loss of privileges, grounding, extra chores, or sparking, the parents should embrace their role to train their children to become moral and respectable adults15. The second skill to be acquired by the parents is regarding education.  The parents should also be educating their children in moral values.   The child’s education should take into consideration certain important facts16: v  Family’s financial status. v  Quality of local public and private schools. v  Level of parental education. v  Personalities of parents and children. v  Home schooling support and resources. v  The involvement of the parents in the child’s education. Besides education, one of the important parenting skills is the effective way of dealing with financial issues.    The demand for expenditure for rearing the child, medical, hygienic needs etc. are soaring high today.     Hence, a successful parent should know what is essential and what is not before deciding upon the expenditure of the limited resources. Conclusion             There is no doubt that children bring us much joy and much responsibility.   Most of the stress and worry of bringing them up can be reduced or removed with proper, careful planning.    The parents should plan when to have a child.   The working mother, if she is to stay at home, once the child is born, should plan earlier to save as much as possible and cut down the family expenditure.   Both the parents have to plan to set aside enough time to be with the child, not only when it is a baby, but till the child becomes an adult.              The parents, need not be only the problematic, should avail of training in parenting skill as much as possible. First of all, both parents should have a congenial and frank communication between them.   Only then, once the child comes into the family, they will be able to communicate with the child easily.   Further the “ego”, the concept of “I” should be relegated to the background.    It is possible that the child becomes sick at times mildly, at times seriously.    Both the parents should take responsibility of looking after the child, not blaming each other as the cause of sickness.    The child rearing, though filled with difficulties, hurdles and events that test one’s tolerance, is undoubtedly a pleasure.  It is a joy.   A successful parent should know how to smile.    That will reduce the stress and pain of the child.    As it grows into adolescent stage, the skills of the parents should be developed further.    They should know more about the physique, the psychology and mental development of the child.             It should be remembered that the requisites of  an effective parent are dedication, attention, love and constant denial of easily administering swift punishment. Though parenting is time consuming, the fruits are very attractive.    The future generation and its success depends on the effective, successful and cheerful parents of today to a great extent. END NOTES 1.       Author’s personal experience 2.       Ibid. 3.       http://www.raisingkids.co.uk 10.14.2008